I’ve previously written about the value of irrationality as with the value of rationality, so I find it time to apply this.
Love is irrational as they say, and I believe it is true. Love is not something one chooses or decides to feel, it is not a thought or conclusion you can reach. No amount of logic, no matter how powerful or watertight it is, can give the slightest sway to it. Love does not play by the rules. It just is(even if you can’t tell).*
It is one example, probably the most glaring, of the beauty of irrationality. It is an example of humanity in that it does not make sense.
Yet, no matter how strongly, or just how, it manages to exist, the irrational feeling does not change the truth. There is a world outside of ourselves. There are actual consequences. If nothing else there is a lion which bites you, and blood, and pain, and death. Whether or not you choose the rational decision, the rational outcome will occur. Love cannot make bread from dirt. Love cannot cure HIV. Love can make you happy, but that’s close to all it can do.**
It is not always easy to choose between your feelings and your thoughts. You can very well cognitively know what is right while simultaneously knowing the opposite on some level. Love may be(or may always be) so deep that it defines truth. The truth is your love, and your logical thoughts and conclusions are just perceptions from the world around. Love, however, is perceived not as a perception of the external world, but it is the external world. Love is. Love it what is out there beyond all our senses, and when our senses deny what we feel/know to be true it is irrational to choose them. It becomes irrational to choose the rational option.
It is a hard decision to make. It is harder still because people are not a switch which can be turned on or off. They must be pushed away, they must be hidden from sight so as to hide the truth, the love, that may forever remain within. However, to do what “has to be done” this must be done.
Though it is never easy, the decision is sometimes clear. For example when someone cheats, one often knows, they must break up with them. It is a plain test, if A then B. Yet sadly, this is not always the case. Sometimes A + F + G + E also equals B, even though no individual cause in enough.
Here is is immeasurably harder to do the wrong thing… the thing you cognitively know you must. Letters do not add. An A plus an E is nothing other than an A plus an E.
It is not an enviable position to see these letters before you. They all point in the same direction, but only you can decide what they add up to. And when they add up to B, there are only two options. Do B, or get rid of some letters.
Either you must go against the love you know in your heart to be true, you remove the letters, or you walk knowingly into the fire you’ve concluded awaits you.
*Of course it can be in different magnitudes. Maybe it’s dimensional.
** And happiness can in turn increase the odds of you staying with your partner, and increase your children’s survival rate, which can in turn increase the likelihood of the population’s irrational attraction to other individuals.