Weaving an Identity Tapestry describes how society’s adoration of particular roles and disgust for others makes for a difficult duality or multiplicity of leanings within an individual when their wishes of themselves to be do not fall plainly in one category. Sonja D. Curry-Johnson therein explains how she feels “We should be able to bring our whole selves to the table.”
Though at the time it did not seem relevant, I recently watched a video of a study where they compared the learning abilities of chimpanzees and human children. After being instructed on how to retrieve a treat through a number of steps both groups learned how to do so. However, when provided with the same situation where it was clear many of the steps were irrelevant, only the monkeys bypassed the unnecessary steps. The study concluded that human children’s expectation to be taught was not possessed by the chimpanzees (or was different) so that the kids wrongly assumed they’d been optimally trained and/or some moral/emotional component existed (possibly the instructor’s feelings toward them).
As I’ve previously stated (as surely others as well), social roles literally characterize the opinions of society and are used to teach others how they “ought” to behave or compel them if they object. It seems to me that this attempt to teach may be usefully compared to the study I saw.
I limit it to the teaching aspect as the use of roles to compel is, as with most all compulsion, not something I support. However, even so limiting the analysis, I can see how one might feel the same tension which Curry-Johnson describes. Having been told how to live there becomes a burden of proof one must overcome to even put their own analysis on equal footing with that which was recommended. Even once somebody has convinced themselves they are right and society’s advice is wrong, they must find the strength to act in a way which may cause them to lose the support of their mentor.
Without any malicious intent involved there can be a great level of strife within the individual. Surely it also becomes more difficult for the protégé as the frequency and degree of disagreements rise. They must encounter the fear that they may, in rejecting a portion of the instructor’s advise, push away the instructor’s support. This fear is twofold. On one hand, if the mentor finds identity in their beliefs and opinions then rejection of those beliefs would be tantamount to rejection of the mentor. Yet, even when this is not true the student may wander so far that their mentor no longer has the perspective to continue providing useful assistance.
In all this analysis I see only two possible wrongs that are committed. The first being that society may feel so strongly for others that it may move to compel them to do what it feels is best (an argument for minimal government). The second, and far less obvious as to why it’s wrong, being that individuals tend to find their identity in the opinions and decisions they reach.
Of course, I’m not entirely sure the latter is the wrong thing to do. I’ve simply demonstrated that in doing so mentors burden their protégés. But the only alternative I see would be to find one’s own identity in relation to those around them and in doing so they would again burden themselves against being true to their own wishes.
Considering that I only see two useful methods of defining one’s own identity and both are of relatively equal burden upon that party, I conclude that the mere presence of role-related internal strife is not conclusive evidence of societal wrongdoing (compulsion). Instead, it may be the ever-present result of humanity’s educational attempts.
Weaving an Identity Tapestry by Sonja D. Curry Johnson. (an essay found in…)
Listen Up: voices from the next feminist generation edited by Barbara Findlen.
National Geographic’s Ape Genius via Youtube
PS. I don’t actually think they actually said that second conclusion in the Chimp study, but it seemed obvious to me so I credited it to them.